Ever had an awkward conversation with a girl? You come in with a wide smile, keep the conversation going and then she just shuts up, reaching for her phone. It's over, isn't it? Yep. As a man, you're expected to deal with conceited, plain, lazy, boring women all the time just to get a chance of having some fun. They can reject you and outright ignore all your attempts at trying to connect.
You can try restarting the conversation but at that point you've taken on the burden of being the entertainer. You're investing more and more energy while she's withdrawn to her fortress and can just wait until you give up. She doesn't have to deign you of looking up from her Instagram feed and can just tolerate you until you shut up and walk away, head bowed in shame. You've spent all that energy and got nothing in return. Is rejection meant to be like this? Of course not.
Now imagine a conversation that you start like this: "Hey, I've only got 30 seconds, I'm in a hurry to catch a plane. Would you mind giving me your phone number?" By setting this arbitrary time limit with an arbitrary condition (you can just omit the condition and say you have 30 seconds or 3 minutes), you've put her under pressure to answer your question right away, which breaks through carefully rehearsed answers to reveal her true self. Women will typically avoid saying "NO" out of fear of violence or awkward scenes; by setting the time limit you imply that all she has to do is suffer through your autistic personality for 30 seconds and then she can go back to her smartphone.
Mentioning some other place or cause lowers her anxiety levels because now she sees she's not the center of your attention but perhaps 50th on the priority list. The time limit also serves as a failure condition for you, as after the time elapses, you're meant to walk away. Didn't get the number? Doesn't matter, just walk away, it would have been a sterile conversation anyway. Over time, you can tweak this number to what you feel works. You could even say one number but use a lower one, giving her the impression that she's so boring that she drives men away. Anyway, you're committed to cutting through the awkwardness and asking her right away if she wants to give you her phone number or not; there's no awkwardness and what's known in the broader pickup community as "orbiting".
Guys who are too awkward to directly ask a girl for a phone number will typically make sure to stay within her peripheral vision as to not seem threatening. The girl will notice them but pretend she doesn't, throwing them occasional bits of attention, just enough to keep them orbiting. These guys hope they'll eventually be given the GO signal, but that typically never happens, or rather, only happens after the girl has been through hundreds of guys and dumped by all of them. In that context, the beta orbiter is "the safe choice" reserved for old age, when the girl has nothing more to offer.
For beta orbiters, this seems like a great deal and perhaps it once was. This kind of reserved, cautious behavior was par for the course when one rumor could ruin a girl's reputation, but today's there's so much opportunity for work, companionship and travel that there's pretty much no risk involved for either of them. Beta orbiting is a remnant of a successful men's mating strategy that might have worked in the 19th century but doesn't any longer, yet guys still try it.
As a modern man, you've got your priorities, which are doing things you like. Orbiting happens when you like the girl in one way but dislike her in another, causing her position on your priority list to randomly shift up and down. This makes you doubt your impression and how you feel, getting you stuck in your head; without an objective failure condition, you'll experience a push-pull wave of emotion and uncertainty that leads to orbiting. Setting a time limit on your interaction means you've got better things to do and can only afford to waste 30 seconds on her conceited, plain, lazy, boring personality. Reaching for the smartphone? Turn around and walk away to do the things you like.
We don't have time to waste on failed, sterile relationships. Whatever it is you enjoy, it's much better than wasting your time on people who aren't an improvement over that. Technology has made us more distant but has also allowed us to weed out all the people who don't deserve our attention. This is what women are actually already doing with their social media profiles, all it takes is for men to do the same. She got glued to her smartphone mid-conversation? That's a sign of disrespect, so thanks for showing that straight away. Instead of asking for her phone number, only to be put in queue with all the other orbiters, go for the headshot, ask her out, and if she's not worth your attention, you'll immediately know with profound clarity.
Any long-term relationship comes down to feeling small amounts of pleasure from just regular things, such as talking with the person or walking together down a leaf-strewn alley, arm in arm. I discovered that drama is the most volatile ingredient in any relationship, hence I avoid drama at all costs; any problem can be solved through just a relaxed talk. False time constraint technique exposes the girl to drama and aggressive manly approach, which shows you how resistant to drama and men she typically is, which will come in handy if you start an actual relationship. From the very first moment, you're testing her mettle and that's what more women need, to be put to the test and if they fail, just be left alone with their smartphones.
It's orbiters who give women the false sense of confidence that isn't borne out by real behavior, making the woman cry out, "Where are all the good men?" when she reaches her late 20s. They were there by the hundreds, hitting you up for your phone number and you ignored them all, honey. The false time constraint technique I described here is ultimately meant to show to men that they have choices and should be exploring them. I've tried it out and it really does create a mental barrier where I'm not thinking about a girl, obsessing over her or anything like that – in, out and move on. If she wanted to get in touch with me later, she could have said something, done something or just reacted in any way. If she didn't, then that's all the signals I needed from her as to what she thinks.
You're not meant to be harhsly rejected, ever. Don't set yourself up for catastrophic rejection or think that's how things are meant to work, that you're meant to suffer through women until by pure chance you land one that's going to tolerate you. Instead, give yourself the goal of doing this kind of approach twice a week or something like that and just try it out. In the meantime, do what you enjoy and advance yourself in other fields, talk with other people and just savor life.
For women, attraction is when the girl has the man put higher on her priority list than he has her on his, meaning when she's showing more interest in you than you in her. In other words, the more you prioritize a girl, the less attracted she is to you. Reverse holds true as well – using false time constraint shows the girl you're doing something else at the moment and she's just a side thought, which makes her interested in you. Using false time constraint doesn't mean there aren't girls worth chasing out there, only that there was no objective approach to determining which one it is, beneath the facade and in her digital fortress. Now you have the tool – false time constraint.